Domestic and Family Violence (DFV): Part Three by Ps Michael Podhaczky

We all know that sometimes home life can be messy and stressful and even get out of hand or overwhelming. It can be in times like this (although not the only reason) that a spouse or parent may become violent. If we are aware of situations like this, then something needs to be put in place to deal with the violence.

No one should be exposed to violence, especially in the home, but too many times it can be swept under the carpet and everyone keeps silent. Sadly, the church is not immune to this and needs to lead the way in breaking the silence and dealing with the matter. No one should be emotionally, verbally, physically or spiritually abused by anyone, especially a family member. However, we all know that it is something that happens too regularly. So, what can we do to try to help in this matter?

Well, many of us know the logos, images and jingles that companies and organisations use. For example, there is the swish and “Just do it” of Niké, the golden arches of McDonald's, the various bank logos, the VW of Volkswagen, and the “Oh What a Feeling” of Toyota etc. Even our children know many of these logos, images and jingles.

But do we know what it is that Jesus Christ would enable people to recognise the church? It was not the cross, or the image of a dove, or even our words or songs. It would be safe to assume that many Christ-followers would not know what it is by the rate of domestic and family violence that occurs within Christ-followers’ homes. Jesus said,

“By this, all people will know that you are My disciples if you have love for one another” (Jn 13:35 ESV).

If you have love for one another (family members included), this is the logo of the church. This notion of love is seeking the highest good of one another, regardless whether there is any return of that love or not. This is this kind of kingdom love that needs to be lived from a Christ-following husband to wife, wife to husband, and father or mother toward children. Therefore, should domestic and family violence factor into the life and home of Christ-followers, if we really live from this perspective? Of course not, but we know that sadly it does. Do you see the disconnect here? What do you intend to do about it?

Pause in His presence for a moment and think this over…

 Do you need support? The following Domestic and Family Violence support services are available:

·         1800 RESPECT National Helpline: 1800 737 732

·         Women’s Crisis Line: 1800 811 811

·         Men’s Referral Service: 1300 766 491